HELP! I am in need of some real Mummy-To-Mummy advice here people! I am at my wits end with Joshua's eating habbits! I literally am running out of patience, energy, enthusiasm and everything else needed to slowly and careful encourage my son to eat actual food!
I've talked before about how the only thing I ever was sure I wanted to avoid was fussiness with Joshua. My teenage younger brother was and still is the most fussy eater and binges on junk food and energy drinks constantly. He has had the worst case of acne I've ever known and although I really, really felt sorry for how badly it affected his self esteem I did also have to make an effort not to launch down the old 'You've Got to Help Yourself' rant at him. My parents spent a large fortune getting him treated with drugs prescribed from private doctors that aren't even allowed on the NHS in order to clear his skin. However his eating habbits haven't changed and I have no doubt his skin will return to it's previous state because of this. I love him but I never wanted to raise Joshua to be fussy, especially as fussy eaters tend to be against good food and all for the bad and nasties. Having seen first hand how a child like this is affected by bad eating I was very steadfast in my resolve to do everything possible to avoud fussiness.
So nearly two years in to his beautiful life, what do I have? A fussy eater. A very fussy eater. Joshua has always had an issue with textures, rather than tastes. Their was the 'no bread' stage-he would eat toast until the cows came home but give him soft bread and he would turn his nose up and his hand would physically recoil as if bitten by it. It drove me nuts. Luckily it's a little better nowdays but he would still prefer toast to bread if offered the choice (which he isn't often).
Nowdays Joshua is far more annoyingly fussy. Somewhere and over something I can't even begin to understand, he now has a list of things in his mind that prevent him from eating. He literally won't eat a thing I feed him without crying, real tears crying that is, and after a few mouth fulls gets so worked up he chokes and gets properly distressed. I let him feed himself but he doesn't actually feed himself, just throws the food around. He's not too bad with yogurts and fruit purees, he will feed himself them with no problems but come to meal times it's like trying to persuade Geri to re-join the Spice Girls-it just isn't happening.
The only exception are those toddler meals, the microwave ones by cow and gate etc. He watched me prepare them and gobbles them with glee-not a peep to be heard and even adds to odd 'mmmm' to it. Oh and of course fish fingers and chips and his fortnightly treat to macdonalds-those things he's never fussy with.
I've looked online, searched high and low and still I can't find any conclusive help. He's fussy but not with hot finger foods of the junk variety, he eats baby food (but he's nearly two) and yet I know he doesn't dislike the food we make for him-fish pies, cottage pies, spagbol etc. It's just in the last six months he's begun to refuse them. I try everything possible, even not giving him anything when he refuses his food, in the hope he will be that hungry by dinner time he will eat whatever-but it all fails.
Joshua has always been tall and skinny, never to have any baby fat on him at all. It's making me worry there is something wrong with his throat because what he does seem to like-juice, water, baby food is very soft. I have ruled out teething pains because it's been consistant for six months and he hasn't had teeth pushing through for all of those six months!
So fellow bloggy mummies, please PLEASE, could you give me any advice on how to handle this going forwards. I'm at my wits end and don't know what else to try to get him to eat things, anythings!
Love Chloe xx