Ok so this post has been half written in my draft folder for quite some time now. It's one I want to write because I am genuinely interested about the response. I don't mean to cause offense or upset anyone but I am genuinely a little confused on certain elements of blogging etiquette.
So there is a huge number of parent bloggers out there. In fact my virtual world of mummy bloggers/twitter friends is a constant source of companionship in my life. Especially as I don't have many friends and no family where we currently live (we relocated for baby daddies job last year). Having my online mummy friends have given me so much support and friendship that I feel strong affiliations with many of my followers/readers etc. I have my laptop on for most of the day and am usually sneaking peeks even when I'm supposed to be doing something else. Yes I'm addicted but I love it and I don't care!
So recently I've found myself wondering a few things about what is and isn't 'the done thing' when it comes to blogging. We all blog for different reasons, we talk about different things and we want different things back. I think the variety is why it works so well for so many. After all we wouldn't all read the same thing over and over now would we!
However I have found myself getting a little caught up recently, there seems to be a little bit of a bum fight going on over the success of blogs. And I've seen an invisable 'line' recently become all too clear. There are some very succesful bloggers out there, with thousands of followers, then there are some equally brilliant blogs with less than twenty followers. There is klout, ebuzzing, facebook followers, google+...all these things which helps us promote our blogs but all rely on numbers to do this. I fear that some of us get caught up in the popularity levels of our blogs and forget why we do it. But hey ho that's fine, each to their own. I'm just saying this because I have found myself becoming worried about my blog, do people like it, is it good enough, is it giving the message out that I want it to? I have found myself registering with so many websites I've lost track to 'help' my blog. I've got so caught up in promoting it that I was starting to forget that I started blogging to reach out, to connect with other mums and most importantly to form friendships in this virtual world. I feel like I've taken a step back the last few days and really put it back in to it's rightful perspective. (By the way there is nothing wrong with blogging for followers, raising your profile etc-like I said we all do it for different reasons, and there is no right or wrong).
I've actually come to LOVE my blog, deeply. It's a part of me. I love to make people laugh with my posts, I like to host some good competitions with prizes people actually want to win and I like to talk about things that matter TO ME. I hope they matter to others too but my blog is my little piece of the world. So when the odd person takes the time to leave hurtful, hateful comments on my blog it's like a huge kick in the teeth. I pour my heart and soul in to this blog, it's a real life line for me and what I say is what I genuinely think or feel. I apologise if this causes offence but I reserve the right to have an opinion and to share it here, this is after all my safe haven. My blog. Just because I put my thoughts out there to share with you doesn't mean I'm inviting you to be nasty back. I really enjoy people saying they disagree with things I say, and leaving constructive comments explaining-after all we are all entitled to have our own opinions. That's part of the world, being civilised people means we can discuss our differences in opinion without it being something that causes offense or hurt. So I don't appreciate people seeing my blog as a place to rant, to pour out their frustrations at the world. Nor do I appreciate seeing it on other people's either. It's totally unacceptable to me and undeserved.
You know who you are. Yes I removed your comments, so please stop searching my blog on a daily basis for them. I can see you doing it, it shows up on my stats that every day since I deleted your comments you have come back and searched for them. I would prefer it if you didn't do this anymore. I am the author of this blog and I don't want things like that here. I appreciate constructive critism but there is a difference. Please take your opinions elsewhere. I will not reply to them, or come down to your level and I will not allow someone who is such a coward to say such hurtful things while hiding behind the 'annoymous' tag to upset me. To be honest, you look pathetic in my eyes.
To everyone else-was I wrong to delete such comments? Being a blogger I've only ever deleted these particular comments, none of the others. Should I leave them there when I don't like them or appreciate them, or even want other people to see them? I'm not sure what the protocool is on these things?
When it comes to blog popularity I also want to stress the importance of giving the 'little guys' a chance. I read all sorts of blogs, newbie blogs with no followers and hugely established blogs with thousands of pageviews a day. It would be nice to think that everyone is getting a fair crack of the whip but I do think that some people are too caught up in the popularity of their blogs to bother with the smaller blogs. I just don't like to see people missing out, and worse giving up because they think their blog will never reach successful levels. I want to say this, don't stop blogging. Remember the reason you started and always come back to that when you feel a little downhearted. Your blog success is only noted by you as the author because you know what you want to get out of it.
Ok Rant Over.
Thank You for reading.
Yes I'm having a stressy moment!
Love Chloe xx